This post is two days later than I planned and isn’t about supporting our immunity in the winter…also as I had intended. But I was SO excited about what for us was an “oily miracle” at the dentist this week that I had to share this first!!! A little background…
My daughter is nine and has a history of mild anxiety. She gets what we think is a “nervous tic” every-so-often that seems to be triggered by performance events (school programs, track-and-field day) and other stressors (last year it was a specific teacher). Ever since she was maybe four or five, I’d say, she was anxious about the dentist, and it’s only gotten worse as she’s gotten older. She’s never had any procedures done to warrant such fear, either…no teeth pulled, no cavities, nada. It was to the point at the last visit (which I’m ashamed to say was over a year-and-a-half ago…we were way overdue), that the hygienist had barely touched her cheek and asked her to open her mouth and she was already flinching! As for myself, I don’t love the dentist, either, and the older I get my own anxiety grows. I have to really focus on relaxing in the chair and always catch myself tensing up my shoulders, clenching my hands and flexing my feet.
This time I decided to be prepared. I attempted mentally prepping her and trying to encourage her to think of other thoughts and to focus on relaxing, though she was resistant to the idea and didn’t seem to think she could do that. As we discussed what bothers her or scares her so much about the dentist, I learned that it was largely the noise that seemed to be the problem. That was kind of an “aha” moment. As much as I hate the sound of scraping, it didn’t occur to me that my daughter, who has a tube in one ear and a gaping hole in the other (that’s another story), would be so sensitive to the noise that it would lead to such nervousness. I decided to try to remedy that with music on my phone and ear buds. She also wanted to bring a stuffed animal to squeeze. Fine by me! And finally but to me, most importantly, I searched for the perfect oily arsenal to support relaxation.
After watching this video and searching my Young Living support group’s page, I decided on these five Young Living essential oils: Peace & Calming, Valor, White Angelica, Joy and Stress Away. We only live a few minutes from the dentist’s office, so we applied the oils before leaving. Regular and sometimes frequent application of oils can be necessary, and since my daughter’s embarrassed to have her mom oil her up I didn’t want to try to do it at the office. 😉 I diluted all the oils for her especially (most don’t require dilution per the label but it’s good to always dilute for kids) and I put all except Joy into a roller. I think most were a 1:1 dilution ratio, so I filled half of an empty YL oil bottle with the essential oil, and topped the other half with V-6 carrier oil and capped it with a rollerball top (which you can get from Young Living as well). With Joy I just put a little coconut oil on my fingers, dropped a drop or two of the oil, and rubbed it on.
I rolled Peace & Calming behind our ears (and rubbed it in). Stress Away I applied to our wrists, Joy over our hearts, White Angelica on the spine or back of the neck, and the same with Valor. We also said a prayer in the parking lot for God to keep us calm, for it to be a positive appointment, and for no teeth to be pulled and no cavities. 😉
By the time we got there, I was feeling very relaxed. I’d equate it to the feeling that I get as Valium starts to kick in. (I’m pretty sure that was the Peace & Calming as it has nearly knocked me out when I’ve diffused it, but it could have been the whole combo.) Seriously I could have taken a nap. Faith said she wasn’t having the same effect, but I can say that she seemed very relaxed in the waiting room and we were laughing. (I’m telling ya, Joy does it’s job, too!)
Because I was worried it might start to ware off after a while, I had her go first (I would be fine with oiling myself up again, but like I said, she wasn’t going to have that in public #preteenproblems). We had agreed that I would go back with her, though I was hesitant and if I thought it would have been better with me not there, I was all for that, too. She insisted, though, and I wanted to do whatever I thought would help. However, when I started to get up as the hygienist came to get her, she said that they’d have to start with x-rays so I couldn’t be back there for that part. Understandable, so I sat back down, assuming she was going to come get me when they were done with x-rays.
Long-ish story short, I sat stewing about the not-so-friendly staff and the fact that the hygienist did NOT come get me after x-rays. In fact, I heard Faith ask for me. I’m not sure what the reply to her was, but clearly they wanted me out of the room. The other mom in the waiting area said that they “never let me go back with my son…except when he had a tooth pulled…”. To make matters worse, I was holding my phone and the earbuds, so Faith didn’t have them to use to drown out the sounds. I’m not one to go all mama bear beyond the grumblings in my head, but I was close that day. I waited and listened, not wanting to go in and have her burst into tears if she was otherwise doing ok. The receptionist finally came out to where I could tell her that I had music for Faith. She didn’t offer to let me take it to her, just took the phone and ear buds from me and headed back. I continued to sit and wait, listening. Shortly after (maybe 10 more minutes after the phone got delivered to Faith), the hygienist came out to say it was my turn. I asked how she did, and she said she was fine and that I could go in while the dentist was in there if I wanted. (Oh gee, CAN I?? Don’t get me started…)
I went to the room she was in. No tears on her face. She said she was good. The dentist came in and started looking. No flinching or fussing. I looked at her arms and hands, and they appeared relaxed by her side. Her whole demeanor was different than in the past. She still wasn’t happy that I couldn’t come back, and we had a brief conversation about that, but she got through the cleaning like a champ. A win for oils (and for God…always for God)!!
Then it was my turn. The sleepy, super relaxed feeling had worn off (this was almost an hour after I’d applied the oils, I’d say), but I felt like I had a lot less tension than I usually do throughout the cleaning. I didn’t find myself having to relax my shoulders down, or unclench my hands, or relax my legs and feet hardly at all. I didn’t have the nails-on-the-chalkboard irritation running through my mind. I still didn’t like the scraping, and I still was ready for it to be over already. But I wasn’t crawling out of my skin for it to be over, either.
I was SO thrilled with how the appointment went that I’m determined to try this “protocol” the next time Faith has an ear appointment (which are becoming equally anxiety-provoking for her) and on her first airplane ride which is coming up in a few months! Essential oils continue to provide new benefits for our family all the time, and when we have huge successes like this, I just can’t help but share! If you’d like to know more about Young Living Essential Oils, you can read more posts from my blog here and contact me for more information!