When you live in a world where Facebook statuses make everyone’s life seem flawless, and where Pinterest makes everyone’s home seem magazine-worthy, it’s easy to feel less-than. I almost cringe when I hear people say how my house is “always clean” or how I’m so “put together”. I’m glad they think so, but truly, that’s been so far from the truth lately!
When friends are coming over I mad-clean for half a day, and even then, PLEASE don’t look closely at my windows, floors, light fixtures…you get the idea. Dishes are piled dirty in the kitchen half the day, despite running the dishwasher and hand-washing several loads a day. My daughter leaves things out all. the. time. despite her occasional purge-and-organize moments. My desk always has a “to do” pile…and there’s usually at least one in another area as well. Laundry sits on my dresser waiting to be put away, even though I promote a “one-touch rule” to my clients. Life happens.
Today I posted the above photo on my Facebook page and a friend commented that this should be the new trend…showing how much we don’t have it together “so we can all understand how normal it is”. She’s right. We all need a little encouragement that our friends are just as much of a mess as we are!
Well in the spirit of being real and making you feel better, rest assured that this hot mess is just that…a mess. I’m behind, my house is messy, and my only child doesn’t get the attention she should. But as my husband likes to say, “tomorrow is a new day”. So we learn from our mistakes, forgive ourselves, and move on with the intention to do better. This has been a big year for choosing priorities and making choices. It’s a gradual process that I continue to do even now. Nothing will change unless I choose for it to. So we decide what’s important, eliminate the things that aren’t as much, and develop the life we want to live.
My friend Dean Jacobs shared a quote today, “A negative mind will never give you a positive life.” Maybe that’s one thing I get right. I continue to think positively, to optimistically believe that things will be good, that all will work out, and that somehow, I won’t screw up my kid.
I guess the message I want to leave you with today is to embrace your mess, know that we all have one and it’s ok! We’re all in this together!